What will you do if you find out your Husband watches porn and lie to you?

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Was browsing through my husband’s phone randomly 4 months after our wedding and saw his porn tabs. I felt like my whole world collapsed. I knew he was kind of addicted to it because even before we got married he watches porn on a daily basis. Bloody hell isn’t it? I confronted him and shockingly he was defensive about it, didn’t even bother to apologise or feel remorseful! I remembered I was already ready for work that morning and was crying so badly, I had to take the day off. We ignored each other for couple of hours or a day or so. Me being me, I don’t like to dwell on things. But I bottle my feelings. So I did what I was good at, ignore what happened and pretend like it didn’t happen. I was furious, mad, disappointed and felt like a total failure. I prayed a lot asking for the strength and guidance and eventually it just passed. I know occasionally he still watches porn until now but he knows how to cover them now. And I don’t bother to check his phone, save me from all that misery. And before you judge, I cheated on him few months before our wedding. Like full-blown cheating. It was hell when we eventually got married. So there is always a story to everything. Things are much better now cause everytime I think about him watching porn, I will tell myself I’ve done worse and the pain I’ve caused him is nothing compared to him watching porn. I seek a little solace in that. It still hurts being a total failure when your husband watches porn though, can’t help it. My husband is accepting of my past and I do too, we are moving forward together though it may seem hard as the trust is completely gone but we strive to be better everyday. We still have miscommunication but I will always make the effort to make the first move and put our fights behind us. My advice is, talk to him like a friend and find out what’s going on. Does he feel like you’re lacking of anything? Is it just for fun? Because men and naked women cannot be separated. I know it hurts a damn lot but if you want to save your marriage, you have to talk to him no matter what the outcome is. At least you’ve said your piece. Take care my dear. ❤️

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Then step up ur game ! be more of a bed goddess to him and he will soon realize he has d real deal and will stop watching porn eventually. However, why must u reatrict his watching? Most healthy men will want to have the release every now and then and it is harmless for him to do so. Don't control if u urself can't perform.

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will ask him not to do so. If he still watches it then will seek some psychiatrist help. If he still doesn't leave this sickness then will inform the police to tell them where he keeps his illegal porn material and finally file for divorce . Why to break your head on a jerk!

2y ago

divorce is ur future

Why not then watch it together with him and experience intimate couple moments? U are not his mother to be restricting him and perhaps this could be something both of u could enjoy the stimulation and session :)

That's what men do? I don't and can't compete with that. He knows it's all fantasy and I try not to let it bother me. Sometimes he watches it while I am giving him fellatio.

i think there's nth wrong watching porn. Why wan to restrict him? if u restrict him from watching, later he go out find other girls even worse...

Hi, I think you should have candid and honest conversation with your husband on this as this normal and there is nothing to lie about

He should probably divorce you instead, restrict his life, so meaningless. Control freak.

honestly ur husband watch porn still better than having sex with another women behind ur back.

Really curious.. Why you don’t let your husband watch porn??