Husband irresponsible or am I sensitive?

Just wanted to get some perspective.,, My husband went for a wedding dinner and plan was for him to come home afterwards because we are visiting my parents the next morning. Mind you he is the kind of person who needs sleep or he cannot function at all. Usually I would cancel visiting my parents but something happened over the week and I want to go and make sure they are ok. So I communicated this to my husband early on and also offered to put baby to bed since he'd have to wake up early. At 11+pm I texted him and asked where he is already, since the wedding dinner would have ended. He said he was going to the after party like ??? Firstly, he didn't bring his keys (intentionally because he would have been coming back early and was lazy to bring). He'll be calling either me or his mother to open the door for him, when he comes back 2am?? 3am?? Secondly, I'm here taking our child for the whole night, offered to take a larger load the next day, and he decided it was a good idea to engage in something that's knowingly going to drain him even more the next day? I'm not trying to be controlling or anything but it's just SO FRUSTRATING. It's so selfish, irresponsible and inconsiderate in my perspective. IMO you can have me time and go out and enjoy once in a while la, but not when (1) timing isn't right - this is the life you chose now what, and (2) it's affecting others ... Am I being a bi*ch 😭😭😭