I'm currently 23wks pregnant. Was invited to cousin's bb full month celebration.Wanted to go very much but heard that according to Chinese custom...best not to go as may not be good for me/bb. Is there such a thing or custom or "clashes" stuff? Will it really be bad for my bb?Felt it's superstitious but just want good for my bb at the end. Any comments?

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There will be thousands and one superstitions that we probably already broke before the child is born. It depends how much u choose to believe.

4y ago

Yup...thts true.:)

Sounds like a bunch of old wife's tales to me. There is nothing to stop you going out, going to parties, holding babies etc etc. At 23 weeks I'm sure that you're perfectly capable of taking care of yourself just fine. You're not running a marathon here, and "excitement" or being happy for your Cousin won't do you or your baby any damage at all.

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For me, I'm not a superstitious person so I still attended all these events even though I was pregnant. But if my Mother or Mother-in-law specifically ask me not to do due to their own beliefs, I'll definitely obey & follow. I don't want to risk the fact that if something goes wrong during pregnancy or child-birth, they'll put the blame on me for not listening to all their advice. If u hv doubts, just choose to be on the safer side. I'm sure your Cousin will understand, just prepare a gift for them. :)

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i am currently pregnant at 30wks. During my pregnancy, i also went to 2 baby showers. For me, i try attend as these are my best friends' baby shower but i won't carry their baby as the old folks tales said your baby might be jealous. So i just go with an open heart. i guess its really up to individual. If you feel like going, then just go with your heart. If you are really worried about the attending due to superstitious thoughts, then let your friend know about it. Im sure they will understand. There's no right or wrong if you are attending it or not. So just go with your heart.

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4y ago

my heart wna go.haha!ya..maybe just dun carry other ppl's bb lah.

Superstitions are often rooted in some form of truth. I agree with the parent above. She makes a good point about having a new mommy and a pregnant mommy in the same room. It could simply be due to a social etiquette -- it's someone else's party and you could take the attention away by being there? Check with your elders and your cousin -- if they say it's okay and you're comfortable with going then why not. But if you have some doubts and are a bit superstitious, it's okay to stay home too. You're pregnant and too much excitement at the party might not be too good for you :) Take care!

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Ha... In India, many people believe that custom. We also follow this. The reason is, if pregnant & new mom are together at same place then its difficult to takecare both for others at a time. Both r dependents & cannot do their works of their own. So Our elders kept that as custom. Nothing will happen to u or ur baby in womb. Just takecare & carry the things with u that u need. Ask ur family members to accompany u for help. One more reason for that custom is, new moms & pregnant both look different. Mood swings, physiological changes etc.. One may get scared by seeing the other.

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4y ago

tks for the advices!

I was asking my parents about this too. Because tomorrow I will be attending... Another side of the family were fine with it.

I’ll go too. This is just some old folks superstition.

Just go. The superstition isn't valid.

Yea it really depends on how superstitious you are, for me I'll still go..