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M, Singapore

First time mum-to-be

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I feel that it matters to offer enough support for baby. I bought a 3 inch mattress to add on to the one from the graco travel cot
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I really feel it does matter, both for comfort and safety (my LOs have fallen backwards/sideways and hit their heads against the mattress multiple times 😅). So I’m glad I always bought 4 inch mattresses.
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My husband and I are planning to manage confinement and our newborn on our own as we prefer it that way. I am not comfortable having someone else at home and my husband is pretty hands on with cooking and chores. This is our first child. My mom expects that we move in with her for a month for confinement as she says that she has everything at her place and she can help us with cooking, cleaning and looking after the baby. She just asked me again if I have decided to go to her place and (although she asked it as if I had a choice) when I told her that we will be staying at home she went ballistic and basically went on about how we don’t know what we are getting ourselves into. This is precisely why I prefer to stay at home as although she is helpful, she always just wants to do things her own way and can get very negative, which affects me and I know that I will be stressed if she is around. We told her that she is welcome to come over to play with the baby but I know that she is still upset that we are not doing things her way. I have purchased the 30 day herbal soups and my husband will be cooking my meals. I have also been reading up as much as I can on breastfeeding and newborn care to prepare. We are not too fastidious about the house being sparkling clean and lead a pretty no frills lifestyle. Would just like to handle this on our own terms without causing so much upset. Sigh. Any advice or stories of support welcome. Can’t really share with my close friends as they all have helper, confinement nannies and / or their mum / MILs around during the period and see it as a necessity. Nothing wrong with that definitely, but I know it’s not for me.
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My mother in law helped out but seriously, with her help or without her help it doesn't make any differences. But I would suggest you to get confinement meals instead and have your husband to help out totally if you insist of not getting any help. Especially for first time mum. I'm a first time mom too, so help from someone else is good, else you'll feel lonely when your husband is not with you when you needed him the most. Good thing for having someone to help is during baby bathing (unless you have attended any of the classes), cleaning up the house etc. But again, if you're not comfortable, don't force it. You might end up in post natal depression
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me and my hubs did managed our own confinement. not strict, flexible ones. we're living with my BIL and he dont allow visitors in so no choice do ourselves. so basically for my whike 44days of pp, we didnt get any help from anyone, plus everyone in my and his family know that we're the type we dont ask for extra help. they would only call in to ask if everything's ok. i have experienced taking care of my mum's pp and my hubs is clueless. so even right after discharge, i did everything myself. which includes my food, baby changing and bath, housechores and all. till now 3m pp, im still doing everything alone while my hubs has to work despite covid19. he does help when he's free. but i rather him to rest and work, while i settle things reallll fast. yknow guys always take their time, right?😂 of course its super tiring. its been 3months pp. when was the last time i had my last good night sleep? probably when i was pregnant at 6months 😂 so I haven't been sleeping well almost 6months.on top of that, ive started working back at night shift. but now my 3m babygirl has grown up and her milestone is incredibly fast, everythings worth it. worth all the tiredness, sleepless nights and all. its okay to manage your own confinement. after all only you and hubs know better. but do seek help when yall need. as much baby is important, your mental health too is important. take care mummy. all z best ❤️😘
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Me and my husband did my confinement without having a CL. But oh well, it's really tough. Both my mom and MIL have their own biz so there's no way they have the time to help out unless just pop by and say hi (mostly just playing with baby. There's many things around my house which they dk where I place it such as baby towels, clothes, diapers. And they don't know how to use my uv sterilizer too 😅 so ended up it's them playing with baby, while I drag my feet after a csect delivery to become their assistant 😂 I had my herbal bath and confinement meals catered daily for 28 days. It's not easy handling a newborn because we still couldn't catch her patterns yet (every baby has diff needs). There's many things to learn along the way and recuperate at the same time. If I ever get pregnant again, I'll hire a CL. Surely money is saved, but ever since I've given birth till now (4 months postpartum) I haven't had a chance to at least have a proper rest for a day 😂
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Can try. Definitely not gonna be easy. Both of you will be very tiring. Have to handle midnight feeds. And pumping of milk. You will not have enough of sleep. Wish you good luck.
I totally support this. I refused to get a confinement nanny as I do not want a stranger to tell me I need to do this or I cannot do that. In ordered confinement food and managed my baby on my own after hubby went back to work. My mum was still working when I had my daughter so she only pops over in the evenings for a short while after work. When i had my son, she was looking after my daughter full time and only comes over with my daughter every few days, though I'd prefer more often so that I can see my daughter. You can do it! 加油!!!
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It's not going to be easy although u already have things planned out. If u aren't intending to get help from your mother, I suggest that u order confinement food, at least u won't have to let your husband cook for u. You can also order extra food so that your husband can eat too! He can then use the free up time to help u around with things (such as washing bottles, pump, preparing bath water, look aft baby when u are pumping or taking a rest etc etc). There are tons of things to be done and u definitely will be overwhelmed. Hope everything goes smoothly for u, take care!
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I am totally for this! My husband and I insisted on managing things and taking care of our baby on our own so we ordered confinement food catering. Although my mom came over during confinement, we still took care of baby on our own - from bathing, feeding, nightfeeds, sleeping etc. My mom has her own beliefs too which i dont agree, so by the first week of my confinement we already quarrelled 😅it was really stressful with old folks around who think we do not know anything or think they are always right, although they mean well....
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I had my first kid while living abroad - most folks there are very DIY and they are out and about with baby very soon after they get home. They don't even do confinement. its very doable especially since its your first kid and there aren't other kids to worry about and your husband is very hands on. Sleep when baby sleeps. Delivered food is a great option. You can do it!!
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Jiayou! It'll be quite hard but worth it.
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It's not going to be easy but definitely possible, especially if your husband is very hands on. Can also consider getting confinement meals delivered to ease your husband duties as buying groceries, cooking and cleaning can take up lots of time. Also make sure essential baby items are ready. Good luck and take care.
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tbh i didn’t pack anything the day i had to deliver, brought charger & a set of clothes for both me n baby & swaddle for discharge. everything else like diapers & pads were provided. maybe u can bring nipple cream if you’re planning to breastfeed incase of sore nipples
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I gave birth in Mar at KKH. Baby diaper, disposable panties, pad are all provided. Basically you just need to bring a set of clothes for yourself and baby during discharge and also phone charger.
Clothes? Haha
All the best !
Wet wipes, small bottle/container to wipe baby face, baby thermometer, baby powder, nuk dry cotton tissue
Sterile gauze from guardian/watsons to clean baby’s tongue. Cut into smaller pieces, wrap around your finger and damp in warm cooked water. One time use.
You can also purchase baby detergent for washing baby's clothes, detergent for washing milk bottles, wet wipes, baby 2in1 body wash, baby powder. If u are BF, u can get for yourself breast pads and breast milk storage bags.
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Wet wipes, nipple wipes if you are BF, cotton ear buds, sterile water tubes if you want to save time and effort on waiting for boiled water to cool down for cleaning around the bb eyes. Sanitary pads for yourself.
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Wet wipes, small containers so you can put some boiled water to clean baby face in morning
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Cotton balls I get pigeon ones. Not too expensive also.
1) NewBorn Diapers (Get at least 4 to 8 Packets as a start if you don't wan to shop often, Per day baby change about 8 pieces) 2) Wet Wipes (At Least 10 Packets of Wet Wipes) 3) Dry Tissue (Useful when baby spill milk) 4) Handkerchief (Optional but useful when baby spill milk) 5) Ruiyi Oil (The bigger Bottle is enough to last beyond 3 months) 6) Rash Cream (for Rashes on face & body) 7) Diaper Cream (for rashes resulting from Diapers) 8) Powder to apply on baby to keep baby comfortable & smell nice. 9) Milk bottle cleanser 10) Milk Bottle Brushes to scrub & clean milk bottles 11) New Born stater set milk bottles (2 small bottles, 2 medium bottles) 12) Mini Nail cutter specifically for Baby 13) Nose block clearance kit 14) Thermometer 15) BioGaia 16) Milk Bottle teats for 1 month+ and 2 months+ & 3 months if you want to standby early. 17) Cotton buds to clean Baby's face and body 18) Baby bathing lotion (2 in 1) 19) Baby Clothes detergent 20) Muslin baby swaddle 21) Alcohol Wipes for gently clean Baby's cord until it drops off naturally (Choose either choice 21 or 22) 22) 1x bottle Cord Spirit Antiseptic from Guardian for gently clean Baby's cord until it drops off naturally. 23) Extra Cans of Formula Milk Powder if you are not Breast feeding; Or standby 1 can if you are breast feeding 24) Baby Bathing towels for wipe clean Baby after bath
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Shampoo, bath gel, wet wipes
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Take a wash. Splash water on face.
Take a walk or do some stretches
Take a walk to get your blood flowing
Baby photo/video 🤣 which work for me
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Drink cold water, take a walk..
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Chicken essence? Haha
drink more waterrrr, eat sour fruits??
Drink more water
Regular exercise boosts your energy levels
Have lots of water and go out for walk if you are feeling sleepy
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$1.5k? But you’ll need to keep spending on consumables when baby arrives
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Diff parent diff cost spend. For me getting her arrival I spend about 3k on her stuff. The ex one is her uv steriliser, carrier, playpen, small rocker bed, a cabinet for her stuff, stroller, Diaper bag, clothes and stuff.
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