At this stage, lo is consider in their 4th trimester. They r just feeling insecure and still wanting to be cuddled like they r in our tummy so nothing to be worried about, it wont turn into a habit for good. They will outgrow this phase and soon u will miss cuddling them when they grow up.
That being said, understand that the adults need to do their chores. I had the exact same experience when my lo is 2-3mths+ but she has finally outgrow it. I tried the following:
1. Take turns to carry if possible
2. To know when they r sound asleep, when their fists r relaxed else they r still aware of the surroundings. If they r asleep, slowly put them down either swaddle or put them sleeping on their side to mimic the cuddling. Even for a 5mins on the bed, it's an achievement!
3. Babywear, it is the best invention isn't it. You can free ur hands and have ur me-time while keeping them by ur side
I wouldn't recommend yaolan coz they might get addicted to it and i have friends whose kids will need yaolan whenever they r out for eg. staycation and it can be quite a hassle to coax them to sleep outside while i have friends who cope well with it. But it is up to individual and always remember all lo r different and unique. I chose not to use yaolan after i found out about 4th trimester and their needs, its a bonding session i feel.
Lastly, have lotsa patience especially now coz we will be mentally and physically tired. Trust me, it's all worthwhile when they outgrow the phase and sleep on their own.
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