Feeling so overwhelmed and drained

Question

It took me a lot of courage to talk about separation.I think I have had enough. I am doing my confinement but I aint resting. Everyone incl my spouse told me to rest, to minimise walking but he isnt helping much, beside feeding LO.I wash bottles until I am sick of it. When I told him if I dont do it, nobody will. He assured me he will, but man I was so wrong.He didnt change the diaper for 6hrs. He didnt wake up when LO was crying so loud for several minutes (yes he is a deep sleeper). He didnt wash the bottles till there was once there was insufficient clean teat and bottle to be used.Whenever he help out with changing diaper, he is the one sitting down while I got to stand and bend until my back ache.He is on paternity leave for 2 weeks, but arent helping much. He can watch Netflix while feeding LO. Am I being too anal about the things he had done, or I was right to be upset about? Sometimes I look at my girl, I asked myself why on earth I gave birth to her.

Anonymous · Answer

You have all the rights to be upset, I would too. Because giving birth is not just about me, you had a part in this too but why did I end up doing everything alone while you get to enjoy? Husband aside, how about laying LO on the bed so you don’t have to bend too much? Or get a diaper changing station. Shower wise, get a bath stand to ease the pressure on your back. Positive side, at least when he ends his PL, you’ll be able to handle everything yourself (thats the case for myself since I had no help, but I managed to get used to it before confinement ends).