Today my daughter told me this, "Aiya,my friends will not come to my birthday party one la, cos I don't have any friends." My heart broke silently. She has always had difficulties making friends in school. She's the one who changes best friends everyday. And hangs out with girls from another class because the other girls in her class doesn't wan to hang out with her during recess time. Every parent teacher meeting, her teachers will bring up the subject of her not being able to socialise well. At the age of 8, all she wants is to have her friends like her and count her in as part of the group. Acceptance. But for the past few years, she has been struggling with that. And I could see that her self esteem is slowly eroding. She has a bossy nature and I know her friends don't like it. But she's only 8. She doesn't have strong self control unlike us adults. As a mum, I want so badly for her to feel accepted. Trust me, I've told her and taught her about controlling her bossy nature. I love her for who she is, her bossy nature cos she's a great leader. And I dont know what else I can do to help her. I'm just sharing this here cos I can't share on Facebook. I hope I have the wisdom to teach her to love herself no matter what.

I'm facing the same problem with making friends issue. My girl is also 8 this year .... During her Primary 1 year at first still not so bad but when Term 2 she started to change ... Crying Evey morning saying that she dun wan go school giving excuse not feeling . At first I think it normal cause kids also got mood swing haha ... But then THIA go on for about whole term so I start to find way to make her talk to me . My girl is the shy type n she won't make the first move to befriend people . She is weak in studies n she feel that she is left out. So what I do I try to talk to her teacher first then I move on with talking to the parents in our group chat. I actually ask them to help me by asking their kids to do me a favour by making the first move to her. OK things get better but because she is too weak she get bully n she is scare that she will be left out from this girls group. Again problem start, I have to tall to the teacher again. This time I also have a nice talk with her. I tell her u have to be comfortable n now what is rite n wrong. If this girl is trying to find fault with u then maybe u also have a problem. U must know how to protect ur self. U tell her friends are important but mummy is forever ur BFF so whenever u feel like giving up try talking to mummy first. Give her some examples, take time to talk to her before bedtime. Give her some time to change let her know at home n in school are not the same cause not everyone is like mummy will love them for what they are. U must really spend time every night talking to her like a Frz. I do that to my daughter. Slowly I believe she will undetstand.