Roarrr!!! LO is 16mo. This morning, LO was whining for this and that and mum sternly said no to him. LO kept quiet seeking for help from grandpa, however grandpa feign ignorance. Mum, Dad and I agreed that we shouldnt give in to LO. Then LO turned to me to whine for things again, i said no firmly and he cried. Yet my mum went over to pass LO the things and sayang him. "Aiyo mummy scold u ar, kk grandma sayang, don cry" Wtf leh! So angry with mum's double standards!!!

You are definitely not alone. Elders are also soft and give in easily and they dont take instructions seriously also. Like my FIL, he simply just spoils my son without any reason. Like literally the moment he step into their house he give him toys, toys and toys... Rarely discipline him since he over indulge him as he was the first grandchild. Son was under my MIL care when I was FTWM for the first few years, so imagine during that few years of indulgence in toys? Then CNY more double standard, my son refused to greet grandma in law (FIL's MIL), he even fiercely scold my son why so rude never greet her. My mind was thinking "Sibeh wayang. Act like he always discipline him"