Putting your spouse first or putting your kids first?

Why isn't putting yourself first an option? I don't mean completely ignoring your child or spouse, but sometimes you have to put yourself first. Take that nap with your child, spend some time having a meal alone or even just taking the time after the kids are asleep to do what you love! I know, it's hard to take time off from being a mum, but sometimes you have to take that time to save your sanity. Sure, love your spouse and pamper each other - and of course, don't forget about doing what your child loves ... but remember that you have to take time for yourself too. Any small way you can.