Putting your spouse first or putting your kids first?
Kid then spouse! Coz a 3yo kid is very young & cant take care of himself while a spouse is a grown up man who can take good care of ownself in my opinion. But I don’t understand why hubby can’t understand this simple logic and he totally hated it, we even quarrelled over this issue a few times.
For me honestly, it'd be my partner. having things strong and healthy between us would be the most important thing. Kids will grow like they're since ages. and they'll only grow learning how their parents are doing. trust me on this. you both together would make a better parent than just one
There's actually a famous quote which goes "The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother”. It's based on the belief that happy parents = happy children. However, I would place both of them equally and judge/prioritise according to each situation.
Spouse above kids for me. Happy parents = happy kids. Does not mean you should neglect the kids, but I definitely prioritize what hubby needs - he's very reasonable and understanding, so there has been no conflict thus far. I would like to believe hubby agrees with me on this one too. :)
Spouse. Cause at the end of the day, it will your spouse who will walk through your life with you whereas your child will grow and build their own family eventually. However that being said, it depends on the situation. Even if it's life concerning then of cause child comes first!
emotionally, always spouse first. a baby can sense whether his parents have a loving relationship and this plays a big part in their growth and development. so always work to build a good relationship with your spouse, above anything!
Kids. A matured like minded spouse would know that the kid requires more attention because they are still kids. But then again, you should also not neglect your spouse too. They also need your love and affection too:)
Spouse is no1. Kids come behind. Don't make the mistake of neglecting ur spouse once u have kids. Ur kids want Mommy and daddy to be loving and be in a good relationship with each other.
I say kids first, any self respecting spouse should understand that you have to put your kids needs first. Just don't forget about your spouse all together
Spouse first because apparently they will find the “care or attention” they need from someone else because you were “too busy” to take care of the kids. 😒
