I feel you, mommy. Our kids are roughly the same age. First of all, I hope you can find time for yourself. You’re still in recovery, and your hormone levels may still be all over the place kaya mabilis kang magalit. Find time to do something for yourself. In my case, I take my showers kapag tulog na sila, and I’ve recently gotten back to drawing.
Secondly, your first kid probably needs one on one time with you po. What I do is kapag tulog na yung 2month old, kami naman ni 2y/o ang maglalaro, manonood, magmemerienda, etc. I also let him help pag aasikaso kay baby para he doesn’t feel left out, at may sense of achievement sya. We also enrolled him sa online toddler class para may iba syang activities and makasalamuha sa ibang kids especially now na hindi sya makalabas ng bahay.
Best of luck, mommy. Kung may makakatulong sayo, ask for help.