Just ranting.

Only a sahm for 2 years plus, i feel lonely and jealous sometimes when husband spends a lot of his time out with his friends while I'm 'stuck' at home with the kids 24/7. I feel guilty for feeling 'stuck at home w the children' and wanting some time for myself. ☹️ Why do mothers have to sacrifice our freedom(also our bodies and literally everything) while the fathers get to do whatever they want guilt free.... Really hard to find a dedicated father/husband who's willing to spend more time w family/wife rather than choosing to always go out w friends. Totally understand that he needs time to unwind after work but its like he gets to go out every week sometimes twice a week while myself only once or twice every other month. Just getting to shower alone feels like such a luxury......... I feel like I'm always complaining but all my complaints always fall on deaf ears. He says ok but still insists going out just a 'short' while but comes home late n is too tired the next day to spend time w the children or me even. Pls tell me im not alone feeling this way. Sighhhh.

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I understand what you mean :( and it's hard. Mums are the primary caregiver cos we've been there and very involved from the beginning so perhaps that's why partners feel it's okay to step away from time to time and live life pre-kids. I'm glad you're talking to him and sharing with him how you feel because communication is key to making it work for both mum and dad. If you find that he is still not doing what you'd hope, perhaps some mummy friends or relatives could help step in to care for the kids while you head out for some me-time? Playdates also work for me sometimes too, just being able to engage with another adult while having an extra pair of eyes on the kids. 💕

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