How to overcome in-law problems?

REPLY FROM OUR THERAPIST EUNICE: With regard to "culture", I will take into consideration familes joined by inter-ethnic group marriages within the Singapore culture, international marriages, and other more subtle cultural differences between and within family (e.g. more traditional vs more contemporary practices/perspectives between and within families. With regard to "intergenerational" differences, my perspective is that there are actual and perceived differences. Think about this, there are actual intergenerational differences as we are literally from different age cohorts from our parents or in-laws. For example our parenta or in-laws might be say, in their 70s and we the children might typically be in our 30s thru to 50s. While there are actual intergenerational differences, I believe that there are also perceived intergenerational differences, whereby we run the risk of easily attributing or dismissing challenging family situations to "intergenerational gaps". Which amongst