Second pregnancy

Is it normal for the spouse not to attend the second pregnancy appointments? I’m in my 32 week. The only time my spouse accompanied me for the appointment was the first visit. Subsequently, i went for all the appointments on my own as he had just started work. Next week, it’s the growth scan and booking of the Caesarean date. I just reminded him and he said, i thought we agreed for me not to go. I was very sad and i walked out of the conversation. After his statement, it kinda made me feel like he doesn’t want to attend anything with the second kid. It makes me feel sad. Just wanted to check if any second time moms experience this with their spouses.

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For me, it’s different as I prefer my husband to save his annual leave for after the baby is born. He accompanied me for the first couple of appointments, the detailed scans and tests. Most of my appointments are less than 15 mins anyway (private gynae) so I’d rather him not waste his leave. After the appointment I am also free to run whatever errands I want or have my me-time. Regardless of preference, more importantly it’s for both of you to be on the same page about it. Did you find out why he is less keen to join you for your appointments this time round? Or maybe you can also let him know that it is important to you that he’s there. Communication is key! All the best ♥️

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