Second pregnancy

Sorry to hear that. My first pregnancy was quite long ago but I think my husband was there for more than 50% of the time. The second one similar to you, first 2 times keep complaining about waiting time (~1H on Saturday) and questioning my choice of gynae (I chose the nearest one within our neighbourhood, not even famous ones in the hospital). We had a huge fight and I chased him home (he made me feel stressed and frustrated whining about the wait). Subsequently even for anomaly scan at hospital a distance away I also went alone. Now at my third tri I find myself reaching home crying because all the other patients has not just their husband but their family accompanying them. Worst, unlike my mom he never asked me about the visits. I have a very difficult husband but I hope you will manage to align expectations with your husband on how minimally he should be involved.

For me, it’s different as I prefer my husband to save his annual leave for after the baby is born. He accompanied me for the first couple of appointments, the detailed scans and tests. Most of my appointments are less than 15 mins anyway (private gynae) so I’d rather him not waste his leave. After the appointment I am also free to run whatever errands I want or have my me-time. Regardless of preference, more importantly it’s for both of you to be on the same page about it. Did you find out why he is less keen to join you for your appointments this time round? Or maybe you can also let him know that it is important to you that he’s there. Communication is key! All the best ♥️

Pregnancy itself is already hard and tiring. The least a husband can do is to accompany the wife to antenatal appointments no matter which pregnancy it is ? I think maybe from the start you guys should have an agreement that he should follow to all appointments, then it wont be a conflict in future. Else maybe you can inform him, since this is the last few appointments, he should follow. Atleast he can see baby’s ultrasound and also know about baby’s growth from the gynae itself. And to help you prepare.