Second pregnancy

Is it normal for the spouse not to attend the second pregnancy appointments? I’m in my 32 week. The only time my spouse accompanied me for the appointment was the first visit. Subsequently, i went for all the appointments on my own as he had just started work. Next week, it’s the growth scan and booking of the Caesarean date. I just reminded him and he said, i thought we agreed for me not to go. I was very sad and i walked out of the conversation. After his statement, it kinda made me feel like he doesn’t want to attend anything with the second kid. It makes me feel sad. Just wanted to check if any second time moms experience this with their spouses.

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Sorry to hear that. My first pregnancy was quite long ago but I think my husband was there for more than 50% of the time. The second one similar to you, first 2 times keep complaining about waiting time (~1H on Saturday) and questioning my choice of gynae (I chose the nearest one within our neighbourhood, not even famous ones in the hospital). We had a huge fight and I chased him home (he made me feel stressed and frustrated whining about the wait). Subsequently even for anomaly scan at hospital a distance away I also went alone. Now at my third tri I find myself reaching home crying because all the other patients has not just their husband but their family accompanying them. Worst, unlike my mom he never asked me about the visits. I have a very difficult husband but I hope you will manage to align expectations with your husband on how minimally he should be involved.

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