My 3 years old son has become very stubborn...doesn't listens to me or his dad unless we shout at him. We tell him don't do he will do it and show. How do I explain to him?

wooo....all the best, felt like i am reading the same story that is playing out in my house these days..... it's the age of rebellion, its not just teens who do it anymore. at this age, your baby is exploring the world and understanding that there are so many options out there to choose from. also, it is interesting for them to see the kind of reactions they can elicit from parents and others around. stay calm and don't shout. talk to your tot repeatedly and say that unless he stops shouting, you cannot understand what he wants. if that does not work, tell him that you will not allow playing, or a favourite toy, or TV or whatever it is your tot would otherwise do. and make sure you follow what you say.

Reckon your son is at the age where he is testing his limits and boundaries with figures of authority, which is perfectly normal. While shouting at him seems a quick fix method, it might impact him negatively in the long run, as he gets older. It is not desirable if your son grows up only listening to you when you raise your voice. Be patient and explain to him that his behaviour is not acceptable. You can try giving him a time-out (ie take away his favourite toy or tv privileges) if he doesn't do what you say. Make him understand that there are consequences to his negative actions. He'll come around soon, I'm sure :)

You have to handle him with patience, discipline, and love, yes a balance of this three. Generally by this age kids realize that they are individuals who have their say and opinion in everything. Talk to him, tell him stories of how good children don't behave in such a manner. Don't give in to all his demands and tantrums. Stop talking to him for a while when he is behaving badly. Be consistent in your own behavior. Eventually things will fall in place.

Hi Rose Mary, You are not alone. Mine is going to age three and I am really facing the same situation as yours. I read a few articles written on this age, it is really an epidermic.. LOL. Almost 80% parents have this same situation. There are good tips to handle this age. Sometimes it works and sometimes not.. but I am applying these tips now to get through this stage. http://www.merakilane.com/8-tips-to-help-you-survive-the-trying-threes/

Shouting is just a quick fix... but never works in the long run. I just try to explain to him the consequences of his actions and how I will act upon it if he isn't listening. Then I go right through with what I said. No more game no more story at bedtime no more toy etc.