MIL problems, need advice (long post)

Hi mummies Am i the only one who has problems with my MIL? I'm not sure if it's because I'm very young therefore she thinks I'm incapable of taking care of my lo myself. But I'm having my confinement at my own home and my parents r both working but I'm doing fine handling my lo. My mil likes to tell me how i should care for my lo and what I should do when i don't need such advices bc I'm rly doing fine! Currently I'm alternating between my parents home n my in law in months so it's fair to both sides in terms of spending time with my lo and I'm honestly more comfortable at my own home as noone is here to micromanage me.. but my mil isnt happy about that, she is constantly arguing with my husband that i should be living with them instead as the baby is their family surname.. and my mil doesn't respect me when i tell her to not wake my baby up when my lo is sleeping she always carries her n wake her up on purpose and keeps insisting on giving my daughter pacifier when i do not encourage unless really necessary. Problems about my in law house that makes me uncomfortable also is because they always smoke in their home and definitely 2nd and 3rd hand smoke is NOT good for my lo but mil doesnt respect that! she still smokes in the house and in her room!!!!! mil also isnt happy that my husband n i r planning to rent a 2room from hdb bc she wants us to stay with her. What should i do?? i get very depressed whenever I'm at my in law house bc of the things my mil does. and I'm not able to voice up to her.

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stay urself if u can handle. I ended up divorce Bcos of all this mIL pro. Ur hubby will b in a very difficult & stress position which is no good for ur marriage. yr in law not happy so wat, u also not everyday face her right. do Wat is good for ur baby and marriage. Best is apply a house urself rent not worth also. Now I'm in my 2nd marriage and I insist not staying w my in law, she is not an easy person also but the diff is my this hubby will side mi and his mom can't control him. u dun argue W ur in law, if ur hubby also think same as u then let him go real to them. Remember is not ur job to make them happy, under their sur name so wat. Jus b firm & make sure u & ur hubby are together, if ur hubby listen to his mom and think u r wrong then ur marriage sure wil have problems. letting bb stay in smoking house is a NO. and u no need everyday bring bb go ur in law side, once a week is good enough. next time u stay ur own place she wan also can go visit u. if ur hubby dun mind stay at ur mom place then Jus stay no need care abt Wat ur in law think. most important u mus b happy.

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