Stopping adoption process

Hi mummies, I just birthed my baby girl few days ago on Aug 2021. I had planned for her to go for adoption for the longest time due to disagreements from family and that my boyfriend felt we were unable to provide for her. I have always wanted to keep her but I have no choice but to send my baby girl for adoption. My adoption was through an agency and private - not under MSF. I cried so hard signing the affidavit to give up my child for adoption and was threatened I will be disowned if I kept the child. I have been thinking for a few days and crying nonstop thinking about my newborn. I am thinking if I should just stop the process and get my child back, get disowned and wing it with the support of my boyfriend or just accept my fate and tell myself it's for the better as the adoptive parents will be able to provide for her. I feel bad for the adoptive parents who probably prepared for her arrival and wasting the adoption agent's time.. But I can't stop thinking about her and crying over her. Please advise or give opinions and not be so harsh. #advicepls #pleasehelp #firstbaby

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Hi mama, I’m here to say: go with your gut and do YOU! If you love this baby like you sound like you do, you’ll make it work, regardless of circumstances. However, just bear in mind that the decision comes with responsibility that cannot be returned. It will be tough but I always believe that we can do anything we set our minds to. My heart goes out to you mama. Whatever you decide, make sure you think of everyone involved - yourself, your boyfriend and most importantly, that precious little life that you’ve birthed.

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