Stopping adoption process

Hi mummies, I just birthed my baby girl few days ago on Aug 2021. I had planned for her to go for adoption for the longest time due to disagreements from family and that my boyfriend felt we were unable to provide for her. I have always wanted to keep her but I have no choice but to send my baby girl for adoption. My adoption was through an agency and private - not under MSF. I cried so hard signing the affidavit to give up my child for adoption and was threatened I will be disowned if I kept the child. I have been thinking for a few days and crying nonstop thinking about my newborn. I am thinking if I should just stop the process and get my child back, get disowned and wing it with the support of my boyfriend or just accept my fate and tell myself it's for the better as the adoptive parents will be able to provide for her. I feel bad for the adoptive parents who probably prepared for her arrival and wasting the adoption agent's time.. But I can't stop thinking about her and crying over her. Please advise or give opinions and not be so harsh. #advicepls #pleasehelp #firstbaby

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Hi Mommy, I can’t give much advice on this as its a very hard decision but a few mommies have given you scenarios cases that you can take note as it is the important factor. Nobody can make decision for you as you know yourself and your feeling the best. Just remember, never live in regret as there is no second chance. However, I would like to say if you have decided to keep the baby, let me know, I can pass u my baby girl’s stuffs if you don’t mind. My baby girl is 9months old. So you can PM IG me @Stainlessjo Although me and my hubby not say “super”financial stable but we don’t spend much on ourselves after knowing baby is on the way out and after she’s born. So our expenses is more on the baby only. I taking care of the baby alone as both of our parents do not have much experience and they are old too. So I can tell you it is not easy . Baby rely a lot on you and more clingy to the mommy too. So you must be prepare for the mentally and physically energy drain, so u must also ensure that your partner will be there to help you out too else you will breakdown some day. Cheer up girl, I hope and pray that you will come out with an answer. Let’s say if you proceed with adoption, u can make agreement with the adoptive parents of letting you to get in touch with your baby girl.

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