Depression during pregnancy

Hi moms, I’m a first time mom here juggling my degree, work and daily house chores. Unfortunately, I do not get the support from my husband who’s supposed to be there for me during this time. Instead, I’m being treated like a maid and expected to do everything like normal. I can’t quit my job although teaching has been honestly tiring. Not forgetting the countless going up and down the stairs. Often, I find myself crying because I’m stressed out at work and home. I can’t have proper sleep at night because my husband snores and refuses to do anything about it because he says it’s natural. On other days, I’m being manipulated into having sex since he says “it’ll help me prepare for birth”. Of course, I don’t fall into the manipulation because how can I? I’m tired from being a teacher, I’m tired of having to take care of the household chores, and I’m tired of having to provide for a man child. I don’t know what else to do and my mom is not taking me back because as the old people believe, the wife belongs to the husband. I lost sleep. I lost my rest time. I lost my happiness. I don’t even have any will to live anymore.

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I am so glad that you have spoken up here! You are a wonder woman and we are here to remind you of that. There are many issues that you are facing; I suggest you pick one and solve it one at a time. Every achievement is an improvement! On the snoring part, either you sleep elsewhere or you wear ear plugs or even get your husband to sleep elsewhere! Teachers have early days and late nights, and rest is v important. As for household chores, look at how urgent and important it is - don't do everything, and everyday! You barely had any energy left. Some chores can wait, and it won't hurt anybody. As for your mom, though she wont take you back, she can still lend a listening ear, which you need. We may be wives now, but we are always a daughter first. Alternatively, look for a gf or a friend to talk about it. Release the negativity so to build/increase positivity. You are not alone!

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