Depression during pregnancy

Hi moms, I’m a first time mom here juggling my degree, work and daily house chores. Unfortunately, I do not get the support from my husband who’s supposed to be there for me during this time. Instead, I’m being treated like a maid and expected to do everything like normal. I can’t quit my job although teaching has been honestly tiring. Not forgetting the countless going up and down the stairs. Often, I find myself crying because I’m stressed out at work and home. I can’t have proper sleep at night because my husband snores and refuses to do anything about it because he says it’s natural. On other days, I’m being manipulated into having sex since he says “it’ll help me prepare for birth”. Of course, I don’t fall into the manipulation because how can I? I’m tired from being a teacher, I’m tired of having to take care of the household chores, and I’m tired of having to provide for a man child. I don’t know what else to do and my mom is not taking me back because as the old people believe, the wife belongs to the husband. I lost sleep. I lost my rest time. I lost my happiness. I don’t even have any will to live anymore.

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Talk to someone who can understand what you are going through, be selective who you are talking to as you do not need additional negative voice from others. If financially you are able to cope, get helper to help you with the chores. Try to talk to the school to see if they are able to make some arrangements for your convenient during this period. Ask your gynae to give hospitalisation leave to give yourself a break/rest that you need. Find professional help if nothing works, don't keep everything to yourself. Women take care of the household out of love, if your husband is not being responsible enough to help you through, stop doing it & think that it's your responsibility to shoulder instead. I am a single mom who is giving birth in 2 weeks, previously cut off relationship with my baby's father as he blames me for not giving him time to adjust to my pregnancy, even when I'm pregnant with his child, he never stops suspecting me of cheating, asking me to get rid of my baby if I don't intend to give him rights to the baby etc. So, do what is right for yourself if nobody is willing to stand for you. Try to talk to your husband again & I hope things will turn out well for you. All the best!

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