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Mommies who send your ️baby to infant care, can share how U help your LO to adapt to sch ? I'll be sending my Lo to infant care due to sudden change in my childcare arrangement .. Worry that my LO can't adapt ..worry about separation anxiety .. Worry that I'll have separation anxiety too :( so much worries .. Any assurances from mommies will be good too cos I'm feeling rather emo. Lo will be about 8 months old when it is time to send to infant care . Any good recommendation of infant care in the west , around Jurong east / Jurong west area? TIA ! :)

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Idza Bagio · Accepted Answer

My friend sends her little boy to PCF Sparkletots Jurong Spring (Blk 528). She is a first time mom and recently went back to work in March. Initially she was worried about her child not being able to adapt but she realized after a while that her son is too young (4 months) to understand separation anxiety. That motivated her to power through her emotions and gave her extra focus at work. She is much more efficient at work because she wants to get home on time to see her baby. She stopped bringing work home on the weekends and draws a clear line between her work life and her family life. Honestly, it doesn't matter how long your maternity leave is. I live in Sweden and mothers here get 6-12 months of paid maternity leave. I used to think that the anxieties working mothers feel is due to the short duration of maternity leave but that's not true. Even after that long stretch, my Swedish friends tell me that going back to work and leaving their child in the care of others is still as heartbreaking. Whatever you do is for your child's benefit and if it's guilt you're feeling, don't. All will be well and things will get easier eventually.

Yen Koo · Answer

Not to worry.Infant Care is just like a normal childcare centre. Rest assured that your child will be taken care of.All my children started off from Infant care.In fact, they have learnt many things from there.Its natural for your young child to feel anxious when you say goodbye. Although it can be difficult, separation anxiety is a normal stage of development. With understanding and these coping strategies, separation anxiety can be relieved—and should fade as your child gets older. However, if anxieties intensify or are persistent enough to get in the way of school or other activities, your child may have separation anxiety disorder. This condition may require professional treatment—but there is also a lot that you as a parent can do to help. For children with normal separation anxiety, there are steps you can take to make the process of separation anxiety easier. Practice separation. Leave your child with a caregiver for brief periods and short distances at first. Schedule separations after naps or feedings. Babies are more susceptible to separation anxiety when they’re tired or hungry. Develop a “goodbye” ritual. Rituals are reassuring and can be as simple as a special wave through the window or a goodbye kiss. Keep familiar surroundings when possible and make new surroundings familiar. Have the sitter come to your house. When your child is away from home, let him or her bring a familiar object. Have a consistent primary caregiver. If you hire a caregiver, try to keep him or her on the job. Leave without fanfare. Tell your child you are leaving and that you will return, then go—don’t stall. Minimize scary television. Your child is less likely to be fearful if the shows you watch are not frightening. Try not to give in. Reassure your child that he or she will be just fine—setting limits will help the adjustment to separation.