My MIL have been helping me out as I am doing my confinement now, however, at times it can be overbearing especially at night when baby is cranky after his midnight feed. As of today, baby is 18 days old. One problem about her is every time baby cries, be it in his sleep or crying for milk, she will barge in every single time and kept on opening the door to check every 10-15 minutes. it was fine to me,I was glad that at least someone is helping as husband is tired after a long day. Two nights ago baby had slight fever, so i told her baby will be cranky and will be needing his feed every hour cause he drinks very little, and I will b up taking care but if I need help I will let her know. however, she still keep checking and opening the door, I understand her concern of worrying that baby's cries will wake everyone up, but me as a mother, would want to comfort my child and be there for him instead of her coming in and insist on taking him away. The next day, she complain to my husband that I seem like I don't want to let go of baby, even after I explained that it because he was not well. now the husband thinks that I am on the road to post natal depression. how do I juggle a better time management between MIL & myself?

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You are lucky your MIL even bothered to help u. I had none. Nothing. DIY confinement plus had to care for older child and she even complained and bad mouth about the way I tk cr of my kids, house messy etc. Worse before I gave birth I told her if she would help me with my confinement she agreed. I paid her and she never turned up. No presents for my baby either. My hubby was really disappointed.

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9y ago

of course I appreciate her every help, and will consider myself lucky. not the luckiest but definitely luckier than some. Having said that, just to let you know my MIL help out in washing clothes. I cook my own lunch band dinner because she don't know how to do confinement, so, no confinement food, but I am OK with that. i wash up after every pump and feeding session, i stay up and care for baby 24/7. I probably have 3-4 hours sleep, if I am lucky. I bathe baby on my own, no one taught me, I j