My MIL have been helping me out as I am doing my confinement now, however, at times it can be overbearing especially at night when baby is cranky after his midnight feed. As of today, baby is 18 days old. One problem about her is every time baby cries, be it in his sleep or crying for milk, she will barge in every single time and kept on opening the door to check every 10-15 minutes. it was fine to me,I was glad that at least someone is helping as husband is tired after a long day. Two nights ago baby had slight fever, so i told her baby will be cranky and will be needing his feed every hour cause he drinks very little, and I will b up taking care but if I need help I will let her know. however, she still keep checking and opening the door, I understand her concern of worrying that baby's cries will wake everyone up, but me as a mother, would want to comfort my child and be there for him instead of her coming in and insist on taking him away. The next day, she complain to my husband that I seem like I don't want to let go of baby, even after I explained that it because he was not well. now the husband thinks that I am on the road to post natal depression. how do I juggle a better time management between MIL & myself?

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Actually my mil thinks that both Me and my husband are incapable of taking care of baby being new parents, not only that, she thinks that we dont know how to read what baby wants whenever he cries. In her mind we are stupid a**, well, actually she did say those words. Even to my baby, she said 'your parents are stupid' Every time I mention something about baby's behaving normally and need not over worry, like hiccups, she will get offended, and complain that I don't know what I am talking. I know my husband will suffer being in between. She will expect my husband to convey her message to me and wants me to follow her 'gospel truth'. but surely, me as the mother of my child have the right to accept or reject isn't it?

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*he is only a few weeks