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What I learned early in life is to love myself. I love my husband, but I will not give everything to him and he knows that. I value myself so much kaya yung utak ko palagi automatic yan na nagreremind sa self ko na you'll get through whatever you experience. You don't have to pretend that you are okay, but I think it helps a lot kung meron kang pamilya o kaibigan na pwede mong makausap at mapagkakatiwalaan at hindi ka ichichismis sa iba. Just one person is okay to have that emotional support. If hindi ka okay, then hindi ka okay. Spend time crying, talking with someone, and please heal completely. Huwag mo madaliin ang sarili mo, pero make sure that when you are with your kid, you are calm and hindi ka tuliro. Always remember that this time hindi na ikaw lang, but you are taking care of someone who depends on you, kaya you need to pick yourself up and do whatever it takes to be the best for that kid and for yourself. Gawin mong motivation ang mga anak mo, but remember that you cannot pour from an empty cup. Kaya kailangan mo muna punuin ng kung ano ang kailangan bago mo ito maibigay ng buo sa anak mo.
Once kase naging nanay ka na,unang magiging priority mo na ay ang anak mo,2nd dyan is yung sarili at pangatlo asawa mo. Iba2x nman tayo pinagdadaanan,pwedeng yung mga kilala mo eh strong sila on the outside pero vulnerable on the inside. Okay lang nman mapagod syempre tao padin tayo. Pero wag na wag mo kakalimutan mga anak mo. Sa kanila ka kumuha ng lakas. Wala eh,sadyang ganon tlga momsh. Tiis tiis nalang muna.
Although this seems to happen a lot, mali yung anak ang top prio. The spouse has to be above the children pa rin. Mahirap gawin kasi kung baby pa talaga ang anak niyo, pero yan ang dapat mangyari dahil if your spouse is happy and your spouse makes you happy, everything else will follow which will help you give the best to your kids. But of course, this has to be a 2-way street. Hindi pwedeng ikaw lang bigay nang bigay tapos asawa mo take lang kaya dapat sa marriage open ang communication para walang gaps. Kung irresolvable na yung problem at nagawa na lahat ng ways to fix it, then that is another story.
Don't think about the "HOW" think about the "WHY".
tenchu mi nakkaliwanag ng isip
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