Special needs child in preschool

You should approach the teacher to be wary of the current situation and hoping that the hitting minimize. I had my daughter's classmate who is special need with autism. When he gets excited, he will tend to be loud and when he want to express something he will pinch his classmate by the cheeks or hands. But surprisingly he doesn't mix with his classmate much, he likes to be alone, he listen to instructions given. My daughter did complain to me and I approach the teacher. I wasn't aware of it until teacher explain it. Thereafter, everyday I keep reminding my daughter that is her special friend and her classmates special friend. Must be nice and learn to accept it. If any point he gets too excited and start pinching or squeeze hands, just let the teacher know. Another fact about the special need boy, he has to be in between two kids or he will wander around in class. He doesn't disturb his classmate unless where necessary as I mentioned. I hope this help, and if any chance that the teacher are not aware nor having difficulty to handle you may also share tips with teachers and tell your daughter so she might be able to understand more. While we don't accept bullying but as someone who has friends with kids that are special needs like ADHD, Autism, etc. I took the time to understand, learn and share.

As a teacher, I suggest that we drop the word “bully” and teach children to use the specific words for what actually happened, eg push, kick etc. Some kids play rough. Some kids quarrel or fight with one another but are friends again soon after. You can feedback to the teacher what happened. Ask if a change in the classroom seating is possible. Teach your child to stay away or protect herself. Teach her about compassion and empathy towards her special classmate. Kids are stronger and more adaptable than we thought, if we allow them to.