feeling down

I am also 22 this year and I also hate the idea of my MIL caring for my kid. I made sure she could only interact with my son minimally. As my son grew older, it got tiring for me but it is ok. Because now at 15 months old, I have finally let go a little and will get my MIL to watch my son in the evenings after his dinner, so I can shower. He will run after me and bang my toilet door to keep finding mama! Continue breastfeeding as that will establish the bond. My MIL is a very difficult person too. She knew I would not let her help so to prevent rejection from me, she decided to make living in her house very difficult for my husband and I. Demand for money every month etc. When clearly we are young parents and have a kid means we should by right need more $ for our expenses. But she just seems to want to make us suffer the hard way. Deprive us off happiness. She even went as far as stopping me from bringing my son to A&E with 41 degree fever. I straight away leave home with my son and stayed at my grandma house for 1 week+ because that was my last straw. She can scold me, whatever. But when it comes to my son, I draw the line there. If I took her advice and did not go to A&E. I believe my son might have had fits. As his condition required anti biotics, straight away reach A&E the PD at NUH rush out to see my son. Just picture the severity of the situation but my MIL didn’t see it. She thought I was trying to defy and undermine her control over us. Ridiculous how her side of the family is so fucking prideful when they are also financially poor 😂 My solemnisation fully paid by my husband, his family never gave a single cent when we married. So I believe that my husband married me. I didn’t marry into HIS family, so I don’t owe them anything! 👌🏻