Struggling so much

I’m struggling so much as a new mother, even though my baby is 10 months old I still struggle to balance my baby, my home and my work. I can’t help resent everyone around me, and my husband isn’t spared. I snap at everything and everyone and I’m close to shutting down. I have good days but when I have bad days it gets really bad, and my baby almost always act up on those days. I’m getting help from my parents when I’m working, but when I’m at home and I see all the chores undone and house messy, my mood dips. I always question myself why i would allow dishes and clothes unwashed, and leave the house in this state when I have a baby in the house. I blame myself constantly, and question my capacity as a mum. I don’t feel like myself anymore, it’s so hard. How do other mothers do this? Im worried I’ll be left with no one if I continue this, and my relationship with my husband will get to a point of no return.

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Hi! 👋🏼 1stly, u feeling the way u feel, believe me, u are not alone. I felt this too when I was a mother of 1. Then I got a hang of it. Then I became a mother of 2, double the mess, and I felt it again. Then I got a hang of that, too. Now, I'm a mother of 3 (nb some more. Imagine the laundry! 😅) And being on ML, I'm looking at a messy house that never cleans cos it just keeps on piling... But u know what? Yup, I'm gonna get a hang of this, too! 🤭 My secret - don't look at the mess, don't look at those piles. But don't do this too long la. At least until ready to clean up. 🤣 How to manage cleaning up? - I used to have PT cleaner but scrap her cos added cost (now that I hv nb). Housework is never-ending, so I try to minimise on work that I can minimise, like dirty dishes and laundry. - Plan my cleaning nights/days and plan what to clean and how to clean strategically. - Rope in kids and hb in cleaning (nag kids n hb and that kinda works for me. May or May not work for u, though. - On your favourite playlist as u clean. All the best k. Always stay calm.

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