just to share my experiences..
my #1 was taken care of by pil after I returned to work after ML, plus we were still staying with them at that time..
like u, I cannot agree with how my pil cares for my lo..end up my hubby & I decided that we are the parents and we sld have the final say so he told his parents "she (me) is the mother, she sld have ever last say"..
things got better after that..well, pil forget sometimes but I'll tell my lo "I'm ur mother I say no means no..noone else can help u" (indirectly reminding my pil who's the boss)
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