Im going crazy soon! LO is 15mo It's definitely good to have parents that dote and willing to take care LO. However i cant agree to their doings and sayings. Just because they think that they are elders so they are always right. Everything LO wants, they give in. They even gave nail buffer for LO to "play" and LO jus puts anything into the mouth. When i attempt to exchange with LO, LO cried like nobody biz and here comes the angel grandma. "Grandma sayang, ok give u give u" and immediately i was given the death stare and scoldings for making LO cry. Wth is this! What is right and what is wrong shouldnt we teach the kids properly? If nt, hw do they grow up being properly behaved? Parents kept scolding tt cannot scold the kids, cos they are still young. I totally cannot agree by giving in everything to him! Mum can shout and scold LO and made LO cried till voice hoarse yet telling me that i didnt teach LO properly and he is my son and he must be inherit my bad characters. And when i wanna be firm with LO, i gt scolded or being sarcastic for nothing by my parents being harsh on my LO and dono hw to behave like a parent!

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just to share my experiences.. my #1 was taken care of by pil after I returned to work after ML, plus we were still staying with them at that time.. like u, I cannot agree with how my pil cares for my lo..end up my hubby & I decided that we are the parents and we sld have the final say so he told his parents "she (me) is the mother, she sld have ever last say".. things got better after that..well, pil forget sometimes but I'll tell my lo "I'm ur mother I say no means no..noone else can help u" (indirectly reminding my pil who's the boss)

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9y ago

Wanjing, i tried! I did tell LO no means no and nobody will help. Have also told my parents that, even my sibling also told parents nt to interfere and have double standards if nt LO will know his way. However gt all those sarcastic remarks and scoldings from parents instead. Ended up we quarrel.