I'm so done with my in-laws. who in the right mind will come in the room when baby is crying while we're changing baby's clothes and diaper, and say in Chinese 'your dad molesting you huh? your dad rape you huh?' WHO IN THE WORLD SAYS THAT?! I've always tell her the same thing over and over again, it's coming to my limit. She always like to pick the timing where I'm making my baby sleep, to knock the door and come in talk loudly, I've always speak to her nicely, say when baby is asleep, don't come in. but she keeps on doing it again and again and again and again. And, few weeks back, my sil lost her gold charm, and she claims that is missing at home. From than onwards, they started locking their room door, and I'm the only one at home while everybody does to work in the morning. my sil is the last to leave the house. I'm very very very hurt by this. Are they indirectly implying that I'm the one who steal the gold charm? it's a small gold charm. why would I risk my marriage for a small gold charm? it probably cost $100+ if I were to steal and sell it. why would I risk my marriage for $100+? I've been together with my husband for 6 years. why would I choose now to steal? Now that I'm married to him? I keep telling myself that it's okay, ignore them. but every time I hear them unlocking their room door, I feel angry and sad. I'm being indirectly pointed as a theft. who would like that?! I broke down few days back when I talk to hubby, I told him that I know I have told him this matter before, but I can no longer tolerate it.. it's too much for me.. am I over reacting? my sils never call me 大嫂, they call me by name. and there were once we quarreled because they said I was rude to their parents by not addressing them every single time and they called me a mute. I blew up. hais... but I'm really lucky hubby side with me, if not I would've gotten depression by now...........

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I am sorry you went through so much. It must really be tough on you. I am so angry at the thoughtless comments they make. Are they trying to make your baby grow up hating the father and fear of a father's touch? I went through rough times living with my in laws too. I would go out daily with baby once confiment was over till all the malls are closed or when hubby ends work so I need not be at home alone. Even if I did, it was already night and everyone wants to rest. My case is people taking our things and no one in the house admits. Only when we found it and point it out, they start giving excuses. Anyway I applied for a rental flat and got my keys when LO was 7mo. It was better even though they keep trying to interfere and pop up at our place. It beats living under one roof. If you could explore the option of moving out, would be great.

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how did you get a rental place? i am not working, not sure if I can afford it.. I wish to move out too. sometimes I do that too. I will go out until it's very late. I feel that my SIL are being very biased towards me. She does not buy anything for my Daughter. She nicknamed my daughter too. Sometimes I feel so helpless. I don't wish hubby to be sandwiched in the middle, so I go out as soon as I wake up, and only comes homd when people is about to sleep.