I am the writer for previous several posts indicating my serious nervous breakdown on the scary fears of contraction and delivery labour pains. My mum in law understood my fears & worried I am having a mental breakdown or severe depression which I am facing seriously lately! I told her directly I may want to go for C-sect with epidural delivery even if my baby is not in breech position. Because I heard from 2 friends that their C-sect's wounds are not really very painful after delivery. If painful, just take painkillers to ease. I don't know how true though. But my mum in law "insisted & psychoed" me to go for normal delivery with epidural. She told me the contraction & actual labour pains were ok to deal with which can be tolerated. But my pain threshold is extremely low. Then she also told me the wound (vagina tear or the cut due to episiotomy) wouldn't hurt as much as the big wound caused by C-sect op. She asked me: "Is it you want to have any excruciating pains from a C-sect wound? And do you know if the wound is not cleaned well, then will have infections too? Is that what I want?" She has her own points, makes sense and concerns too. She sounded really upset when I told her my current decision about C-sect with epidural and she told me very FIRMLY twice: "Ok I don't care which delivery method you used as long as my grandchild (gender unknown yet) is safely delivered! I just want to have a healthy grandchild that's all!" What should I do? She really wants me to go by natural delivery badly & maybe I want C-sect because I really don't want to experience contraction, dilation & actual labour pains! Of course I don't mind trying normal delivery with epidural as long as the anesthesia effect can last from contraction pains till full actual delivery (pushing out of baby). Pls advise mummies! Thanks!

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Hi, its your birth, so its your story, your decision. I believe that every woman should be empowered to make her own childbirth decisions. I think this is key so that she doesn't look back and regret. I would suggest you research and find out more about vaginal births and c-sect to make that decision. Not just the pain factor for each option but the risks and health impact it has on you and your baby. I'd like to recommend you to check out HypnoBirthing. It is an antenatal childbirth programme which teaches mothers self-hypnosis techniques so that they can achieve a calmer and more relaxed birth whichever birth method they choose (vaginal or c-sect). The course also equip the birth companions (your husband) with knowledge and techniques on how they can support the birthing mother. If you are interested, you can PM me or check out my fb page, www.facebook.com/AyanaBirths , I am a certified HypnoBirthing Childbirth Educator. :)

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