I want another child. my hubby wants to wait

I wonder if it’s common. My hub and I have sex only once a month. Or maybe once in 2months. After we had our kid we are just not so into sex anymore. Or maybe it’s our long term rls of being together for 12years. Im no longer that bothered by this anymore as compared to the first few years when I just given birth. We still talk a lot and still close like soul mates. But recently I’ve been yearning to have a 2nd kid but he is firm about having just one child as he doesn’t want another kid to change the quality of our life or be tired and stressed up. Our finances are quite alright too. (However he did briefly mention maybe he might reconsider when our kid is very old, when reach teenage yrs) But I’m really not sure if I can wait. Occasionally I get depressed secretly and quite obsessed with those thoughts but cant express because I don’t want to pressure him esp on something he firmly rejected. Being not the highly fertile kind makes me more depressed and worried because I fear that when he finally open up to having more kids, it would be tougher or too late as we aged. My current kid was conceived only after 7years of unprotected sex naturally. Which is why I’m more worried. I really envy friends that could easily conceive and not worry abt this at all. I hope there’s a better way to release my sadness when the wave of depression comes every now and then. Anyone is going through the same and can relate to this? Pressure from family and friends around urging me to have another kid make it worst. But neither can I share with them my reason or feelings. How do u deal with it?

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I might understand your husband's feeling of not wanting to have another kid. For my case, I have a lovely 3 year old son, and i dont have the urge to procreate a new one because i have a potentially secured my bloodline and I just don't have that drive to make more babies. Although yes, I sometimes we do seek out sex, but its never about making babies its more for pleasuring our sexual needs. My advice would be communicate with your husband, tell him how badly you want a baby, heck prepare a slideshow if you need to. We men will mostly give in to ideas if they have a solid reason that will benefit us. If that still doesn't help, then work that emotion somewhere else. Give more love to your current child and nurture him to be a bright and brilliant kid. Cheers, Anon

I'm 37 and had unprotected sex once in 13 years that's how old my youngest son is and Bam pregnant my husband was firm NO on having anymore children but it happen by surprise and he is doing ok with it. Make sure you opening up to him how your feeling maybe he will come around sooner

Please don't let it bother you. You might just get pregnant one of those random sex you usually have. Since you are soulmates, still discuss your worries with him.

Super Mum

Don’t care about what other people say.. must really plan and have a good talk with your hubby to discuss calmly. Don’t bottle it up

Both must come to same page as child will suffer if hubby not willing. If he willing, can see gynea to help conceive faster

Best is to talk to him and share how u feeel.

Don’t force him. Try to talk to him calmly

one is already better than none..

Home Trying To Conceive i wonder if common hub i have sex only once month maybe once in 2months after had kid not into sex anymore maybe long term rls being together 12years im longer that bothered anymore compared first few years when i given birth still talk lot still close like soul mates but recently ive been yearning have 2nd kid but firm about having child doesnt want another kid change quality life tired stressed finances quite alright too howev