DEMANDING BRIDESMAID

I need advice on how to deal with "demanding bridesmaid". I'll be having an intimate wedding this year. Limited guests due to pandemic and limited din ang budget. So family and close friends lang ang invited, I invited one of my close friends. Then ngayon sya nagsabi gusto nya mag abay para di masayang punta nya. So kinuha ko syang abay. Sabi nya dapat daw provided namin yung dress, hindi ako aware dun to be honest kasi yung iba kong abay kanya kanya sila ng dress, siya lang yung nag iisang nag ask sakin ng dress. So yun binilhan ko na lang sya ng dress naisusuot nya, tapos ngayon naman nagdedemand sya ng hair and make up artist. Then bukod dun gusto nya sya kukuha ng abay na ipapartner ko sakanya, eh yung sinusuggest nya na ipartner ko sakanya hindi ko naman close friend at hindi invited sa wedding. Stress and pressured na ko sa madaming bagay dumadagdag pa sya πŸ₯Ί Sa lahat ng bridesmaid sya lang yung demamding sa dress, hair and make up pati sa ipapartner sakanya. Gusto daw nya maganda sya at bagay sakanya yung dress, gusto din nya yung maayos daw mag make up, tapos dapat daw yung partner nya mas matangkad sakanya saka wag daw sobrang payat ng ipartner sakanya, dapat daw maganda katawan ng partner nya etc... Paano ko ba to ihahandle? 😩

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Let her go sis. To begin with, being invited in a wedding is already a privilege, nung sinabi palang niya na make her as abay para hindi sayang punta niya off na yun. Kung guest lang siya sayang agad? Sa dami ng need niyo pag pilian as guest sa wedding napili niyo siya tapos back of her mind sayang lang on her part. Hindi mo rin responsibility ang dress. The abays whether male or female is also your choice. If she's a real friend she'll support you on your wedding. Remember, this day is YOURS hindi sa kanya kaya wag siya mag pa special. Added burden yan sayo sis, let go mo na. Share ko lang, my ate got married a year ago. Same, there is this bridesmaid who volunteered herself. Taas na agad kilay ko nung nalaman ko kasi may atraso pa yung girl na yun sa younger sister namin. So anyway, sa fitting palang ng damit and all dami na niyang demands. Finally the dress is finished, my sister has been trying to tell her na puntahan na sa bahay yung dress for her to fit. Weeks passed and she didn't go, until 2 weeks before the wedding inaaway niya yung ate ko kasi bakit daw hindi siya ang nagdadala sa bahay nila kung gusto niya talaga maayos yung dress. Other than the dress dami niya ring kyeme kyemeng demands but the dress was my ate's last straw. Tinanggal niya sa list and told her she's removed from the guest list. My sister gave the dress to my cousin to take her place and specifically told the wedding planners not to let that girl enter if ever she gate crash the wedding.

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