I am always the one at fault

Question

I am the main caregiver for my daughter, feed her, teach her, plays with her. So when she gets some scratches here and there it will always be my fault that I din do a good job. Or when her shoes are too tight my husband says then just dont wear the shoes, I am like she is walking now how can she dun wear shoes?  He say since cases are high dont go out. My girl already rarely goes out and now dont even bring her to park?  I dont know what I have done wrong, everything I do is wrong.

Raven Tan · Accepted Answer

It sounds like the problem is not with you but with your husband. He is nitpicking, it is easy to find fault with any situation and not provide a viable solution. I think there is an underlying issue here - he may be frustrated with something but doesn't know what exactly, or doesn't want to say, and is just lashing out with small things that won't break the status quo. It's emotionally draining for you. I feel the solution is not for you to try harder or start an argument, but for someone to point out to him that he is unintentionally being an AH and remind him to be kind.