i am in a relationship and my partner has a 10 year old daughter from her previous marriage. i also have a 6 year old girl who lives with my ex-wife. we are planning to get married, but not sure how to break it to the kids. any suggestions?

as a couple who are looking to get married and settle down as a family, the only way to make the kids understand is to speak to the kids directly. at 6 and 10, the children will be able to understand what is going on, so it is important that you both first speak to your biological children individually, and then speak to both the kids together as a family. also, if you are in touch with your ex and are on good terms, please try and sit as a family (you your ex and your child) and explain that whatever happens, you all will always be connected and there for each other.