Life with two kids

I have a 3 year old toddler and a 1+ month baby. Regret is a strong word to use. I'm starting to wonder how life is without kids, how peaceful it will be, how much free time i'll have. I don't know if i hate it or love it. It's like i don't feel im meant to be a mother because mother loves how it feels and i don't. When it's good it's great, but when it gets exhausting, i feel like packing my bags and leave. That's how tired i am. Idk if i can do this. I feel like such a disappointment.

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To me parenting requires both parents to work on it. Sometimes even the whole village because we will need one another’s support. I too, often wonder how my life could have been without kids! I would still look good in shapes, look young, having my career at its peak, having ample time to pamper on myself and doing things I love. But now I could only do minimal makeup , no time to pamper myself, always looking the worse out of me in my whole life and having to tell my bosses that I can’t participate certain events because I have a kid to take care. It hurts me. Then one day i felt why only mothers have to sacrifice. So I came to a point where I lay out everything with my husband and we compromise. i told him if he wants a pretty wife, he needs to provide me with time by taking care of our baby. If he needs me to work as well since he cannot afford me not working with my paycheck then we need to take turn to take care of baby when he is sick and more. There were so many things to speak on and I truly felt these were the game changer. Today, i feel I’m a mother but still the career minded woman I was because of the support I had from my husband and his family.

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