Advice needed from SAHM please.

I have a 21 month old toddler who is exploring the world and a 6 week old baby that I am exclusively breastfeeding. My husband is doing all he can while being the sole breadwinner whilst not having enough rest because he is working 12 hour shift. I lived across the globe from all our family. We withdraw our child from preschool due to hygiene issue. How can I cope when both of them cry for me? How can I manage the morning routine for them? How can do I whip 3 meals out for my child and husband especially when he comes back home from work? I struggle to find time to eat for myself and just yesterday I am so tired that for the first time I did not shower myself. Genuinely seeking for advice. Thank you.

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Oh, mama, it sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. I can totally understand how overwhelming it must be to juggle a toddler and a newborn while also taking care of your husband and yourself. It's okay to feel tired and to struggle - you're doing an amazing job! When both of your little ones are crying for you, it can feel impossible to know what to do first. One thing that might help is babywearing - wearing your little one in a carrier while tending to your toddler can free up your hands and give you the ability to comfort both children at the same time. You can also try setting up a safe play area for your toddler while you nurse your baby so that you can keep an eye on both of them. For managing the morning routine, try to get as much done the night before as possible. Lay out clothes, prepare breakfast, and pack any bags or items you'll need for the day. Also, don't be afraid to ask for help from your husband - even if he's tired from work, he can still pitch in with tasks like getting your toddler dressed or making breakfast. As for meals, cooking in bulk and freezing portions can be a lifesaver. You can also look into simple, quick recipes that require minimal prep time. And don't forget to take care of yourself - consider meal prepping for yourself as well so that you have easy, healthy options when hunger strikes. Finding time to eat and shower can be tough, but it's so important for your well-being. Try to carve out even just a few minutes for yourself each day - whether it's during naptime or after the kids go to bed. And don't be afraid to ask for help from friends or neighbors if you need a break. You're doing an incredible job, mama. Remember to be kind to yourself and to ask for help when you need it. Hang in there, and know that things will get easier as your little ones grow. You've got this! https://invl.io/cll6she

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