I am a first time mum, my pain tolerance is super super low to the extent when drawing blood I feel pain for the insertion or injection by requesting & using the smallest diameter needle. Docs and nurses often teased me for being such a baby. Recently I started to have a lot of phobias for delivery pain. Initially I was very worried but now I am having a freak out even I have scary dreams about the painful labour process lately. Now I am really constantly thinking of the pain that a pregnant mum (referring myself) that I have to endure and go through in future. I told my mum and mother in law about my serious fears regarding the pain. Mother in law told me the pain is not the dilation or tear in vagina, the real pains are the contractions throughout the 10hours+ duration. Is this true? Or the pains are when the baby is coming out of the vagina? I am so scared mummies! Pls help me. Pls tell me what to do because I am really extremely scared of the pain. I don't know where exactly the pain comes from and how to overcome them? Should I just go for C-sect to end the painful process for someone like me who is so afraid of pain? But I wanted a faster recovery so thinking of going for vaginal delivery with epidural. I heard epidural is a pain reducer, not a pain reliever. And I am very worried I am going to suffer prenatal depression right now. How or what should I do to seek mental consultation to relieve my tremendous fears for pain?

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Childbirth is not always painful. Some women do not experience pain at all but tightening sensation or pressure. When you are not fearful of labour but comfortably relaxed, you will be able to enjoy your labour and birth process, welcome your baby into this world in a gentle and healthy way. Both taking epidural to numb your senses or cesarean section are not healthy for both you and your baby. The side effect is a long list. You can consider taking the right childbirth classes, learn to prepare both your mind and your body for labour and birth. Deep relaxation is the key to a successful natural childbirth not your pain threshold level or pain relief drugs. This was a first time mother who didn't feel pain for her birth. http://childbirthodyssey.com/hypnobirthing/stephanie-first-birth/

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