I am a first time mum, my pain tolerance is super super low to the extent when drawing blood I feel pain for the insertion or injection by requesting & using the smallest diameter needle. Docs and nurses often teased me for being such a baby. Recently I started to have a lot of phobias for delivery pain. Initially I was very worried but now I am having a freak out even I have scary dreams about the painful labour process lately. Now I am really constantly thinking of the pain that a pregnant mum (referring myself) that I have to endure and go through in future. I told my mum and mother in law about my serious fears regarding the pain. Mother in law told me the pain is not the dilation or tear in vagina, the real pains are the contractions throughout the 10hours+ duration. Is this true? Or the pains are when the baby is coming out of the vagina? I am so scared mummies! Pls help me. Pls tell me what to do because I am really extremely scared of the pain. I don't know where exactly the pain comes from and how to overcome them? Should I just go for C-sect to end the painful process for someone like me who is so afraid of pain? But I wanted a faster recovery so thinking of going for vaginal delivery with epidural. I heard epidural is a pain reducer, not a pain reliever. And I am very worried I am going to suffer prenatal depression right now. How or what should I do to seek mental consultation to relieve my tremendous fears for pain?

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Hi i m same as you. I even feel afraid of drawing blood or injection etc. But on the day of delivering my brain cant think of pain but the safety of deliver a baby ! So i went for csec with epidural. End up endure abit but once epidural inject. i m totally numb and feel nothing and second day wake up i can force myself to stand up and walk around and bath with mild pain but endurable . Once you see your baby all pain gone. I m a person with 0 tolerance of pain . Sometime its not as scary as we think

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8y ago

Hi can I ask why you went for C-sect??? Isit bcoz your baby is in breech position or you just want C-sect as a decision??? I am thinking of C-sect too but I am scared of the wound pain!!!! And may I know is there any excruciating pains at the wound after the anesthesia or epidural effect wears off???? Thanks!!!