how scary is giving birth

It wasnt really scary.. i had some brown discharge a wk before i had some pain at lower back making me unable to slp.. then it got painful till i fell aslp.. but the next night i couldnt, too painful till hb ask me go hosp.. he scared i pop on his car 😅😂 then i also tried to tahan and took laughing gas which didnt help and i just felt worse trying to breathe so end up i tahan until 7cm then take epidural. Frankly i couldnt feel anyting, not even pushing. No pain 😅 take a chill pill!