irresponsible husband or am i exaggerating?

My husband and I have a beautiful 7-month-old baby, and while we both love our little one dearly, I can't help but feel like the responsibilities of parenthood are falling disproportionately on me. It seems like no matter what, I'm always the one who's on call for our baby. Whether it's feeding in the middle of the night, soothing during a meltdown, or managing the day-to-day tasks of childcare, it's like I'm the default parent. Meanwhile, my husband still seems to have the freedom to go out with friends, focus on his career, and pursue his interests without having to consider the baby. And while I'm happy that he's able to maintain some semblance of his pre-baby life, it's hard not to feel a little resentful when I'm the one who's constantly tethered to our little one's needs. I know that communication is key in any relationship, but I'm hesitant to bring this up with my husband because I don't want to create conflicts or hurt feelings. I worry that expressing my frustrations will only lead to arguments and further strain on our relationship. Has anyone else experienced similar feelings in their own journey through parenthood? How have you managed to navigate the division of roles and responsibilities with your partner without causing tension?

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I told my husb everything that I feel. let him know that I'm tired mentally too and he needs to be involved. if you show him that you're able to do it all, he will assume that you're enjoying motherhood and doesn't need his help. set time of the day when he needs to take over so you could get a good shower and me time a bit. guys won't have the initiative so just tell them what u want them to help. do the milk. change the nappy. take over the baby for a while. set a date with ur girls and leave the baby to him. set this on rotation. it helps. and it also let him have a 100% parenting day. don't bottle up ur feelings. it'll only backfire.

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2y ago

true. talk to him in a way that you're communicating your feelings rather than attacking him. hopefully it works 💪🏼 keep going moms. we can do this.

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