My husband is asking me to move to his hometown and take care of his ailing parents. While I don't want to run away from my duty as a daughter-in-law staying in a small town would not be good for the education of my six-year-old son. how do I explain this to my husband without hurting him?

One fine day, wrapping up your whole stuff and moving to another place sans your husband doesn't seem a good plan when you don't see any major reason as why the in-laws cannot shift to your place. Tell your husband that getting his parents to your place would be a better idea as that way you all can live together, else you will have to run two homes, one where your husband will stay and other your in-laws place. Also, your son who is in his formative years will have to live without the love and presence of his father which can easily be avoided if in-laws shift with you.

yes it will be really difficult to wrap up everything and suddenly shift to their place, as the school and friend circle and everything else will have to be changed. also, if there are better opportunities where you currently are, it makes more sense to be here. talk to your husband and ask him to bring there him, at least for a few months. if they are able to adjust then maybe you guys can make this a permanent setup. or maybe you can look for another place nearby where they can stay so that you all have your space and are near them too

suddenly packing up everything and moving to a smaller city to be with your in-laws can create a lot of lifestyle troubles, especially for your kids in terms of education. why dont you ask your husband to bring his parents here for soem time? you all can see how it goes. for all you know, the in-laws might not like the life here and may want to move out and live their life their way. if they do adjust and if you all want to live together, fine, else they can stay somewhere nearby.

moving all the way to your husband's hometown and shifting your kid's school and education could be a huge challenge. i think the better alternative is to get them here. you can explain to your husband that once the parents are here, being in a bigger city will give them access to faster and better medical facilities and your kids will also be in the place they are familiar with.

Let him know your concerns and maybe suggest an alternative. Your in laws could move to your place instead. That way, you get to stay put and your husband gets to be around to take care of your in laws as well. You can also suggest that where you stay have better medical facilities compared to a small town and this could be useful when dealing with ailing elderly parents.

Hey, Talk to your husband. He cannot take such a big decision on his own. Tell him your concerns, which should be his as well and rather than moving you two there and disturbing your family, call his parents to stay with you guys. You just can't upset your child's school, and studies just like that when another option can very well be done.

Ask your husband to call his parents to the city. A city has better medical facilities and your daughter's studies also won't get affected.

Just curious which country are you from? Because from what you said might have some traditional complications.