How to explain a 4 year old, where do babies come from?

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Follow your child's lead. Answer questions as they come up and keep explanations simple. Young children aren't ready to handle a lot of information about the complex realities of conception, gestation, and birth. "Wait until your child asks you," "If children are not asking, it's not important to them." When your child does ask, you want to have a healthy, open conversation and provide some basic information."As your child grows and becomes more emotionally capable, then you can go into more detail." Ask, then tell. Make sure you understand what your child is really asking. To avoid a misunderstanding, respond to your child's questions by asking: "What do you think?" Many young children spin elaborate fantasies about how babies are created. First get a handle on what your child is thinking. Then you can use that as a launching point for a more helpful discussion. Use the correct language. You can avoid confusion by using accurate terms for body parts. For example, telling a child that the baby grows inside the mother's tummy can be confusing, since that's where food goes. Instead, tell your child the baby grows in a special place inside the woman called the "womb" or "uterus." And if you say that the father's seed grows inside the mother, the child may picture an apple seed growing into a tree inside a woman's body. Instead, you can explain that the father's sperm swim out of his body and into the mother's womb. Tell a story. Make your explanation into a story, with a beginning, a middle, and an end, You can follow the usual plotline: The mommy and daddy make a baby, the baby grows inside the mommy's womb, and the baby comes out when he's ready. This helps children understand that creating and growing a baby is a process that happens over time. If you're pregnant, this will also reassure your child that your pregnancy is temporary and that, when the baby grows big enough in your womb, it will come out and your child will have a sibling. Be matter-of-fact. If you find yourself starting to get embarrassed, remember that this information is not "charged" for young children the way it is for adults. They won't associate the mechanics of reproduction with adult feelings like sexual attraction or desire. Try to be casual and straightforward in your explanations. If you show discomfort, your child will wonder if there's something shameful about what you're saying.

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