How much ang bao would your give fil's mistress? She told husband "please inform ur wife that she needs to give angbao to me too since u two are married" ??? Ps: she isint a nice lady Im married for 3 yrs and had my first kid last yr but she didnt give me angbao during dating neither did she give angbao to my child during cny. And she is legally NOT my mil!!!

I would not give at all. Like you said she is not nice and why will she ask your dad to tell you to give her money like this. It doesn't sound right. I will tell my husband to settle his portion since this is his father's mistress but I won't give a cent. Besides if she is the cause of your husband's family issue all the more I won't give as I don't respect people who break up others family