how do i deal with tantrum toddler instead of using hitting her

Like they say, consistency is the key. If she don't want to stop crying and want to get her things, let her continue cry till she stop her own. So next time she know it's useless anymore. If you give in to her cries, than she will know no matter what, you will give in. I nv beat my kids with anything, small mischievous, i will beat her palm or leg to warn her. I start naughty corner too. Now when she is naughty, i will tell her go behind the door and stand, and she will go. Once she go behind the door (depend on situation) she will stop her nonsense. At times she cry non-stop, but i will let her cry till she stop if she can't give in when i went 5 minutes later and ask her say sorry. When cases are small, few minutes later have to go and ask her to say sorry, so she will know she is in wrong and must stop. If no long, the not effect maybe opposite instead.