How do I explain race to my mixed race child? I am chinese, my husband is indian.

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Begin by encouraging your child's curiosity about the differences between your and your husband's culture and even appearance. It is something to be proud of and not offensive. Sometimes parents think "We don't see colour" or "We are not racist." This is not about race or colour. You can start by telling them that everybody is different and you are Chinese and your husband is Indian. Don't fall back on fractions so that your kids would have to choose who they are. Instead, use the vocabulary popular to describe this union. In your case your kid is Indo-Chinese. Next step is to encourage them to establish their own autonomous identity. They can be who they choose to be and you can tell them that they don't have to conform to any expectations. The next tangible step is to celebrate festivals from both cultures so your kid is well adept to both. And most importantly, be honest and teach them all you can about both sides. All of these ways will help him develop his own identity and embrace both cultures with love and respect.

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