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How do you deal with grandparents who thinks they are right to always want to “hog” on to your child most of the time? Makes me feel like a surrogate haiz

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Oh dear.. My MIL has been hinting me that she wants to look after the baby when I head back to workforce after delivery. I’d rather not.. She demanded that I fetch my baby home only during the weekends. 😬😬 I am an early childhood educator myself & I set a pretty high standard for child minding & care. So I gv her a straight up no for an answer. And with this Covid situation, I will likely limit the number of visitors to our place. Plus kissing is a no-no as well. As a parent, I decide what’s best for my child. 😉

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7mo ago

Some ppl just don’t have common sense babe 💁🏽‍♀️

If it’s your parents, you need to speak to them, vice versa for your spouse. I don’t think there’s any wrong in wanting to be with your own child. If I feel someone is hogging my baby, especially when I’m a FTM… I’ll be pretty firm that when I want to spend time with my baby, I shouldn’t feel the guilt to ask you for my baby.

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I don't have solutions but as a fellow first-time mum, I want to let you know that your feelings are valid even though your spouse does not understand and agree. Thankfully due to the covid situation and two-visitors limit, we hardly visit my in-law so I'm spared from the 'hogging'. But I know I'd definitely feel irritated if it happens. :)

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8mo ago

Before the 2-visitors limit, FIL tried to make us go over with baby, even after his workplace turned into a big covid cluster. 😒 We had to send a long text explaining why we couldn't risk it. Then came the 2-visitors-a-day rule and we haven't visited since.

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is your child the only grandchild? if he is then maybe that's their way of showing love, try talking to you husband who may be in a better position to help?

Better to discuss with your husband on it and decide