Husband who shouts at you

Well in my case, it's usually because I shouted first. When I get angry, I tend to pick on my man over and over again. Usually he will ignore me and walk away but there was once where he shouted back. I was shocked but in all honesty, I deserved it. I was being a jerk. He apologized soon after and I felt really stupid because I was the one who should say sorry as I started it :(