wedding fund who should pay ?

Super envy you guys husband. Mine didnt even help or didnt even plan but still keep add and request something. Banquets deposit , wedding gown package (preshoot, actual day photography and make up artist ) , my suit tailor, wedding bands, room furniture already cost me near 10k. I still have to settle female dowry, wedding cake, wedding car, banquets, pin qing and actual day ang bao etc etc. Faint.